Saturday, May 5, 2012

20 / 2 = 10

Division…it is something that we are taught early in our education, in the foundation phase around grades 1 and 2. Our enthusiastic teachers help to demonstrate the concept of division with play dough and pizza (who KNEW that learning could actually be fun?). It continues to be taught throughout our schooling days, teachers edifying us on fractions and on how to do long division. Division even creeps up on us as math becomes so foreign I’m really not sure why they still consider it math (Calculus, you are your own beast). So, yes, division, in many senses of the word is a mathematical term. However, what other implications, what other meanings does the word division carry?

Division is something that I have thought about a lot in my time here thus far in South Africa. I think about it in many aspects of my life here; it is something that exists in many facets of everyday life, whether people would like to admit it or not. I think that division is something that needs to be discussed in order to, hopefully one day, be rid of.

A few months back, I was visiting and helping another PCV/my closest friend – Jillian (“Xongile”). We are working together in doing teacher workshops at our respective schools since we figured two heads are always better than one (Jill is better at Science/Maths while I have the English/Education edge; plus, Jillian really wants to get her idea of “Friends Corps” off the ground and running). While I was at Jillian’s site, she put on a brilliant lesson discussing the idea of “labeling,” trying to get her Grade 7 learners to realize that we should not judge a person based off of looks/appearance. So often, we label people. Before getting to know a person, we make snap judgments based on what someone is wearing, where someone is from, how someone speaks, what language someone speaks, how old someone is, what skin color they are, etc. If you are currently sitting in your chair and reading, thinking “I have never made a snap judgment before,” kudus to you, really. You are a much better person than I am since this has sadly become so engrained into our culture. With labeling, we make divisions. We put people into different groups, separating “us” from “them.” Once this division is made, it is hard to go back. Prejudices are created, discrimination begins. This lesson really got me thinking about division based off of things like race, age, gender, wealth, etc.

In South Africa, Apartheid (literally “separation” in Afrikaans) ended in 1994, not so long ago. The Apartheid was a great struggle of racial separation lasting from about 1948-1994, and the tension still exists between the different races in South Africa (whether it be whites, colored’s, Indians, Asians, blacks). I especially see this tension between the blacks and the whites (the Afrikaners) where I am stationed. Whenever I am in my shopping town, I hear “mulungu” or “legkoa” at least 10 times before going home. Yes, I am a white person, but never before did I think I would be called that. I have never thought about my skin color so much as I do now. In addition to being called by my skin color, I am constantly asked for money. Since I am white, the assumption is that I am also rich. As much as I’d love to help out by giving my rand to a good cause, little do they know that I am a struggling volunteer, scraping together two rand for magwinya (okay, that’s a bit of an exaggeration…). The reason for this is that there are hardly any white people in my shopping town. So, when I do my shopping with my other PCV friends, we call a lot of attention to ourselves simply because of our skin color.

The other week, I went to my larger shopping town with my host brother, Tumelo. Even in a shopping town with a larger percentage of Afrikaners, we still got attention. When we got home Tumelo talked about how he loved how many people looked at us. He said they were all surprised to see us (a black young male and a white young female) together. This should come as no surprise. Why can’t a white female and a black male be seen together? Why does there need to be this division of races? Why is it that I am the only white person living in a village (something that people here are still utterly shocked at when they learn where I live)? Why is it that there are still sections of town designated for “coloreds?” The village life is great – people are friendly, relationships are cherished, food is delicious, and cold drink is flowing! Let’s cross this racial divide and come together. Let’s really embrace the idea of “The Rainbow Nation.”

This is not to say that this racial divide exists everywhere. I do see hope at some points, on certain days. We often have Afrikaners come to our schools, selling things like kitchen ware to the teachers. Also, that same day that I was shopping with Tumelo, I went to get a much needed haircut (I just can’t give way to cutting my own hair yet, sorry!). At the salon, there were two boys – one Afrikaner and one black – who seemed inseparable. We really need to learn from this new generation. Skin color does not, and should not, ever define who we are.

“The men eat too much meat.” This was the reasoning my best friend in the village, Sylvia, gave to me when I asked her why the men and women had separate food lines after every funeral. We had just returned from the burial, it was hot, I was hungry, and the line for food for the women was 30 minutes long. The line for food for the men, on the other hand, was non-existent. I, clueless like always, asked Sylvia why we couldn’t get food from the other line. Apparently, “men eat too much meat” and my village has laws about men and women eating separately. The men have their line, the women theirs. This even crosses over into lunch at one of my primary schools. All of the male teachers eat together, and all of the female teachers eat together, never daring to comingle. The male/female duties in the household are also much divided: the woman does all of the cooking, the cleaning, the washing, etc. (just imagine all of the women here wearing “Superwoman” capes) while “the man of the house” waits to be served his food (pap and meat) and drink. Again, I am seeing hope for the future that this will not always be the case – my host brothers help with the wash and cleaning the house, and it is my host brother Tumelo who taught me how to hand wash my clothes (sheesh, was I terrible at this when first arriving!).

For me, sometimes I feel like I am between the two in my village (that is, not quite the level of a male, but also not the level of a female). It’s like I am floating above any gender expectations. Whenever I go to a gathering in the village, and all of the women are on the ground on straw mats while the men are seated in chairs, someone rushes to get me a stool or a chair. Again, I assume this comes back to the issue of race. While during the first few months in my village I submitted to taking the chair to appease my community, I no longer allow it. I might not be breaking gender inequalities by sitting on the ground, but I sure will not keep any race barriers in my village. I am integrating.

South Africa has one of the highest economic disparities in the world. You can take a taxi for a little over an hour from my village, escaping the third world and enter into the first world (or darn close to it) just like that. All of the sudden you have left the dirt roads, the schools with only half of a roof, and the thatch-roofed rondavels; you suddenly find yourself surrounded by tarred roads, schools with beautiful sports grounds and facilities, and houses that seem to have appeared from “Better Homes and Gardens.” There are families in South Africa who can hardly afford to put porridge on the table, while there are families in South Africa who can afford to send their children to the top-notch schools. My fellow volunteers and I often joke that we have “first world problems in the third world” but it is so true. Sometimes it can be a bit jostling switching back and forth.

As I discuss this conundrum of division in South Africa, I reflect back to my life. Even as a volunteer, I myself feel divided at times. In the village, I sometimes feel pulled in one million directions. I don’t know who or where or what to help with at times. I divide my time between three schools – 2 days at one primary, 2 days at the other primary, and 1 day at the high school. I try to divide my time evenly in helping all of the educators. I try to divide my time amongst my classes of 50, trying to work with each and every student. I divide me time with family time. So many divisions. I wish that I could be everywhere at one time, but I can’t. Some days, I wish there were 10 of me.
Additionally, I sometimes feel divided between two worlds – my life at home in America and my life here, at my new home, in South Africa. I often catch myself thinking about family and friends back home, wondering what everyone is up to. As one of my best friends is about to graduate from grad school and start his new job, as my Mom is about to run her biggest race (woot woot Broadstreet!), and as my older sister is about to have her first baby, I can’t help but think of home quite often. I can’t help but feel a little guilty that I am missing all of these momentous occasions. I can’t help but be a little too attached to my Blackberry (again, first world problem). However, as much as this is true, I need to be more present, as do all of us. I need to remember to live in the moment, not in the past or in the future. I need to be fully present, my whole self. A divided me won’t do any good for anyone. Neither will a divided nation, a divided village, or a divided anything really. I know that sometimes I can be too much of an optimist, and that things are far easier said than done, but let us try to live in the moment. Let us try to forgive past faults. Most importantly, let us try not to make snap judgments. Let us try not to divide “us” from “them.” Because, in the end, division just doesn’t add up.

Ke a leboga kudu!
Meg :)

As I work with about 20 other Peace Corps Volunteers on “The Books for Peace” library project, please feel free to check out the following link in an effort to bring literacy to rural South Africa.

https://www.peacecorps.gov/index.cfm?shell=donate.contribute.projdetail&projdesc=674-072
Meghan K Downey
Peace Corps Volunteer, South Africa
Education and Community Resource Specialist

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